Loving Bella
Raising a Child with RAD
recent posts
- Watching Her Panic While the World Celebrates—Parenting a Child with Trauma During the Holidays
- “Why We’re Choosing a Calm Christmas for Our RAD Child This Year”
- The Hidden Game That Tears Families Apart: Triangulation
- When Every Little Thing Becomes a Battle: Power Struggles in RAD Homes
- She’s the Sweetest in Public-and the Scariest at Home
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Most parents want to love their child unconditionally—but when trauma enters the picture, even the strongest families can feel caught in a web of conflict. Triangulation is one way children test loyalties and boundaries, often leaving parents feeling exhausted, frustrated, and unsure how to respond. In this post, I share what triangulation looks like, why…
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Every. Single. Thing. Is a battle. From socks to showers to lunch, my child with RAD fights for control over every moment- and the people who love her the most are the ones she fights the hardest. Here’s what it’s really like inside a RAD home.
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She looks perfect in public. But behind closed doors, it’s chaos, rage, and survival. This is what life with Reactive Attachment Disorder really looks like- and why masking is the first symptom we need to talk about.
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Raising a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a profoundly challenging experience, distinct from traditional parenting. Parents report feeling misunderstood and isolated, especially when faced with well-meaning but hurtful comments from others. Such remarks can diminish the perceived severity of their situation, pressure them to assume a passive stance, or overlook the complexity of…
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Parenting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is nothing like typical parenting. Well-meaning comments like “She just needs love” or “Have you tried…?” can feel like daggers when you’re already giving everything you have. This post shares what not to say to RAD parents—and what to say instead. We don’t need advice. We need…
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Conversations primarily focus on abuse from older children towards parents, neglecting the experiences of parents with very young children exhibiting harmful behaviors. Parents facing such challenges seek understanding and support rather than judgment. They describe physical and emotional abuse from their children, highlighting their love and efforts in managing complex trauma-related behaviors.
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Father’s Day isn’t easy for every dad—especially those parenting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. I sat down with my husband, Brett, to talk honestly about the grief, the growth, and the grit it takes to father a child who struggles with connection. This isn’t a story about picture-perfect parenthood. It’s about showing up. And…
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After a flood, the narrator reflects on their feelings of sadness in an empty room that symbolizes lost love. They long for a connection with a beautiful girl who fears commitment. The narrator believes that love and family are essential, hoping that, through effort, the room will fill with trust and healing.
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The post describes the struggles of a mother dealing with her daughter Bella’s intense attachment to her father, Brett, which escalates into rejection and hostility towards her. This dynamic reflects the complexities of Reactive Attachment Disorder, where love is perceived as a threat. The mother realizes that Bella’s behavior stems from a survival instinct rather…
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Six years ago, a couple adopted a four-year-old girl in need of a forever home, but their lives transformed drastically as they faced the challenges of fostering a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder and other issues. This blog shares their journey, offering support to parents navigating similar experiences. You are not alone.
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